{"id":"an7.63","title":"Kinds of Wives","languageCodes":["en","pi"],"languageNotes":{"en":"Bhikkhu Sujato · CC0","pi":"Mahāsaṅgīti edition · SuttaCentral"},"chapters":[{"id":"an7.63","title":"Kinds of Wives","units":[{"id":"an7.63:0","sourceIds":["an7.63:0.1","an7.63:0.2","an7.63:0.3"],"kind":"text","text":{"pi":"Aṅguttara Nikāya 7.63\n6. Abyākatavagga\nBhariyāsutta","en":"Numbered Discourses 7.63\n6. The Undeclared Points\nKinds of Wives"}},{"id":"an7.63:1","sourceIds":["an7.63:1.1","an7.63:1.2","an7.63:1.3"],"kind":"text","text":{"pi":"Atha kho bhagavā pubbaṇhasamayaṁ nivāsetvā pattacīvaramādāya yena anāthapiṇḍikassa gahapatissa nivesanaṁ tenupasaṅkami; upasaṅkamitvā paññatte āsane nisīdi.\nTena kho pana samayena anāthapiṇḍikassa gahapatissa nivesane manussā uccāsaddā mahāsaddā honti.\nAtha kho anāthapiṇḍiko gahapati yena bhagavā tenupasaṅkami; upasaṅkamitvā bhagavantaṁ abhivādetvā ekamantaṁ nisīdi. Ekamantaṁ nisinnaṁ kho anāthapiṇḍikaṁ gahapatiṁ bhagavā etadavoca:","en":"Then the Buddha robed up in the morning and, taking his bowl and robe, went to the home of the householder Anāthapiṇḍika, where he sat down on the seat spread out.\nNow at that time people in Anāthapiṇḍika’s home were making a colossal racket.\nThen the householder Anāthapiṇḍika went up to the Buddha, bowed, and sat down to one side. The Buddha said to him,"}},{"id":"an7.63:2","sourceIds":["an7.63:2.1","an7.63:2.2","an7.63:2.3"],"kind":"text","text":{"pi":"“Kiṁ nu te, gahapati, nivesane manussā uccāsaddā mahāsaddā kevaṭṭā maññe macchavilope”ti?\n“Ayaṁ, bhante, sujātā gharasuṇhā aḍḍhakulā ānītā.\nSā neva sassuṁ ādiyati, na sasuraṁ ādiyati, na sāmikaṁ ādiyati, bhagavantampi na sakkaroti na garuṁ karoti na māneti na pūjetī”ti.","en":"“Householder, what’s with the people making that colossal racket in your home? You’d think it was fishermen hauling in a catch!”\n“Sir, that’s my daughter-in-law Sujātā. She’s been brought here from a wealthy family.\nShe doesn’t obey her mother-in-law or father-in-law or her husband. And she does not honor, respect, esteem, and venerate the Buddha.”"}},{"id":"an7.63:3","sourceIds":["an7.63:3.1","an7.63:3.2","an7.63:3.3"],"kind":"text","text":{"pi":"Atha kho bhagavā sujātaṁ gharasuṇhaṁ āmantesi:\n“ehi, sujāte”ti.\n“Evaṁ, bhante”ti kho sujātā gharasuṇhā bhagavato paṭissutvā yena bhagavā tenupasaṅkami; upasaṅkamitvā bhagavantaṁ abhivādetvā ekamantaṁ nisīdi. Ekamantaṁ nisinnaṁ kho sujātaṁ gharasuṇhaṁ bhagavā etadavoca:","en":"Then the Buddha addressed Sujātā, saying,\n“Come, Sujātā.”\n“Yes, sir,” she replied. She went up to the Buddha, bowed, and sat down to one side. The Buddha said to her:"}},{"id":"an7.63:4","sourceIds":["an7.63:4.1","an7.63:4.2","an7.63:4.3","an7.63:4.4","an7.63:4.5","an7.63:4.6","an7.63:4.7","an7.63:4.8","an7.63:4.9","an7.63:4.10"],"kind":"text","text":{"pi":"“Satta kho imā, sujāte, purisassa bhariyāyo.\nKatamā satta?\nVadhakasamā, corīsamā, ayyasamā, mātāsamā, bhaginīsamā, sakhīsamā, dāsīsamā.\nImā kho, sujāte, satta purisassa bhariyāyo.\nTāsaṁ tvaṁ katamā”ti?\n“Na kho ahaṁ, bhante, imassa bhagavatā saṅkhittena bhāsitassa vitthārena atthaṁ ājānāmi.\nSādhu me, bhante, bhagavā tathā dhammaṁ desetu yathāhaṁ imassa bhagavatā saṅkhittena bhāsitassa vitthārena atthaṁ jāneyyan”ti.\n“Tena hi, sujāte, suṇāhi, sādhukaṁ manasi karohi; bhāsissāmī”ti.\n“Evaṁ, bhante”ti kho sujātā gharasuṇhā bhagavato paccassosi.\nBhagavā etadavoca:","en":"“Sujātā, a man can have seven kinds of wife.\nWhat seven?\nA wife like a killer, a wife like a thief, a wife like a lord, a wife like a mother, a wife like a sister, a wife like a comrade, and a wife like a bondservant.\nThese are the kinds of wife that a man can have.\nWhich one of these are you?”\n“Sir, I don’t understand the detailed meaning of what the Buddha has said in brief.\nPlease teach me this matter so I can understand the detailed meaning.”\n“Well then, Sujātā, listen and apply your mind well, I will speak.”\n“Yes, sir,” she replied.\nThe Buddha said this:"}},{"id":"an7.63:5","sourceIds":["an7.63:5.1","an7.63:5.2","an7.63:5.3","an7.63:5.4","an7.63:5.5"],"kind":"text","text":{"pi":"“Paduṭṭhacittā ahitānukampinī,\nAññesu rattā atimaññate patiṁ;\nDhanena kītassa vadhāya ussukā,\nYā evarūpā purisassa bhariyā;\n‘Vadhā ca bhariyā’ti ca sā pavuccati.","en":"“With a mind full of hate and no kindness,\nlusting for others, looking down on her husband,\nshe longs to murder him who paid the price for her.\nA man’s wife of this sort\nis called a wife and a killer."}},{"id":"an7.63:6","sourceIds":["an7.63:6.1","an7.63:6.2","an7.63:6.3","an7.63:6.4","an7.63:6.5"],"kind":"text","text":{"pi":"Yaṁ itthiyā vindati sāmiko dhanaṁ,\nSippaṁ vaṇijjañca kasiṁ adhiṭṭhahaṁ;\nAppampi tassa apahātumicchati,\nYā evarūpā purisassa bhariyā;\n‘Corī ca bhariyā’ti ca sā pavuccati.","en":"A woman’s husband earns his wealth\nby focusing on a profession, trade, or farming.\nAnd even if it’s only a little, she wants to take it.\nA man’s wife of this sort\nis called a wife and a thief."}},{"id":"an7.63:7","sourceIds":["an7.63:7.1","an7.63:7.2","an7.63:7.3","an7.63:7.4","an7.63:7.5"],"kind":"text","text":{"pi":"Akammakāmā alasā mahagghasā,\nPharusā ca caṇḍī duruttavādinī;\nUṭṭhāyakānaṁ abhibhuyya vattati,\nYā evarūpā purisassa bhariyā;\n‘Ayyā ca bhariyā’ti ca sā pavuccati.","en":"She’s an idle glutton who doesn’t want to work.\nHer words are harsh, fierce, and rude.\nHe works hard, but she lives as his master.\nA man’s wife of this sort\nis called a wife and a lord."}},{"id":"an7.63:8","sourceIds":["an7.63:8.1","an7.63:8.2","an7.63:8.3","an7.63:8.4","an7.63:8.5"],"kind":"text","text":{"pi":"Yā sabbadā hoti hitānukampinī,\nMātāva puttaṁ anurakkhate patiṁ;\nTato dhanaṁ sambhatamassa rakkhati,\nYā evarūpā purisassa bhariyā;\n‘Mātā ca bhariyā’ti ca sā pavuccati.","en":"She’s always caring and kind,\nlooking after her husband like a mother her child.\nShe keeps the wealth that he has earned secure.\nA man’s wife of this sort\nis called a wife and a mother."}},{"id":"an7.63:9","sourceIds":["an7.63:9.1","an7.63:9.2","an7.63:9.3","an7.63:9.4","an7.63:9.5"],"kind":"text","text":{"pi":"Yathāpi jeṭṭhā bhaginī kaniṭṭhakā,\nSagāravā hoti sakamhi sāmike;\nHirīmanā bhattuvasānuvattinī,\nYā evarūpā purisassa bhariyā;\n‘Bhaginī ca bhariyā’ti ca sā pavuccati.","en":"She respects her husband\nas a younger sister respects her elder.\nConscientious, she does what her husband says.\nA man’s wife of this sort\nis called a wife and a sister."}},{"id":"an7.63:10","sourceIds":["an7.63:10.1","an7.63:10.2","an7.63:10.3","an7.63:10.4","an7.63:10.5"],"kind":"text","text":{"pi":"Yācīdha disvāna patiṁ pamodati,\nSakhī sakhāraṁva cirassamāgataṁ;\nKoleyyakā sīlavatī patibbatā,\nYā evarūpā purisassa bhariyā;\n‘Sakhī ca bhariyā’ti ca sā pavuccati.","en":"She’s delighted to see him,\nlike one reunited with a long-lost comrade.\nShe’s of good pedigree, virtuous, and devoted.\nA man’s wife of this sort\nis called a wife and a comrade."}},{"id":"an7.63:11","sourceIds":["an7.63:11.1","an7.63:11.2","an7.63:11.3","an7.63:11.4","an7.63:11.5"],"kind":"text","text":{"pi":"Akkuddhasantā vadhadaṇḍatajjitā,\nAduṭṭhacittā patino titikkhati;\nAkkodhanā bhattuvasānuvattinī,\nYā evarūpā purisassa bhariyā;\n‘Dāsī ca bhariyā’ti ca sā pavuccati.","en":"She has no anger when threatened with violence by the rod.\nWithout hate or anger,\nshe endures her husband and does what he says.\nA man’s wife of this sort\nis called a wife and a bondservant."}},{"id":"an7.63:12","sourceIds":["an7.63:12.1","an7.63:12.2","an7.63:12.3","an7.63:12.4"],"kind":"text","text":{"pi":"Yācīdha bhariyā vadhakāti vuccati,\n‘Corī ca ayyā’ti ca yā pavuccati;\nDussīlarūpā pharusā anādarā,\nKāyassa bhedā nirayaṁ vajanti tā.","en":"The kinds of wives here called\nkiller, thief, and lord;\nimmoral, harsh, and lacking regard for others,\nwhen their body breaks up they set course for hell."}},{"id":"an7.63:13","sourceIds":["an7.63:13.1","an7.63:13.2","an7.63:13.3","an7.63:13.4"],"kind":"text","text":{"pi":"Yācīdha mātā bhaginī sakhīti ca,\n‘Dāsī ca bhariyā’ti ca sā pavuccati;\nSīle ṭhitattā cirarattasaṁvutā,\nKāyassa bhedā sugatiṁ vajanti tāti.","en":"But the kinds of wives here called\nmother, sister, comrade, and bondservant;\nsteadfast in their own morality, restrained for a long time,\nwhen their body breaks up they set course for a good place."}},{"id":"an7.63:14","sourceIds":["an7.63:14.1","an7.63:14.2","an7.63:14.3","an7.63:14.4"],"kind":"text","text":{"pi":"Imā kho, sujāte, satta purisassa bhariyāyo.\nTāsaṁ tvaṁ katamā”ti?\n“Ajjatagge maṁ, bhante, bhagavā dāsīsamaṁ sāmikassa bhariyaṁ dhāretū”ti.\nDasamaṁ.","en":"Sujātā, these are the seven kinds of wife that a man can have.\nWhich one of these are you?”\n“Sir, from this day forth may the Buddha remember me as a wife like a bondservant.”"}}]}],"sourceRevision":"afdafa92450cfe7573b280da50382888323666d2","sourceUrl":"https://suttacentral.net/an7.63/en/sujato","licence":"CC0 1.0","licenceUrl":"https://creativecommons.org/publicdomain/zero/1.0/","editionNote":"Full supplied source file; inherited abbreviations are preserved. Not a reconstructed expansion of every repetition. No Malay or Mandarin translation is implied."}